What to do when the next-door neighbor walks around visibly in the nude?
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DEAR ANT: My next-door neighbor walks around her house in the nude. I know because I have seen her. She has curtains on her windows, but when the lights are on at night, you can see EVERYTHING. The other night I heard my 10-year-old son and some of his friends giggling and found them spying on her with a pair of binoculars. I’m sure she does not know she can be seen through her curtains. I know we’re not the only ones who have seen her either. Neighbors are talking. I think I should tell her, but I don’t know her very well. How do I do it without embarrassing her and me? NEXT-DOOR TO A NUDIST
DEAR NEXT-DOOR TO A NUDIST: Even though you “barely” know her, you need to tell your neighbor what’s going on A.S.A.P. If ever there was an argument for an anonymous letter, this is it. Send her one and explain the situation. Her curtains are not providing her with adequate privacy. If your neighbor does not install some sort of window shades or blinds and continues to parade around in the buffo, well…she enjoys putting on a show and there's nothing you can do about it short of telling your son it's not polite to stare. Good luck. ANT
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Mindy Songfer
9:12 pm on Monday, October 31, 2011
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Righteous2Bare
6:05 am on Tuesday, November 1, 2011
Dear Next door to a nudist. How about YOU install some window frosting "available at Home Depot" so you, your son and his friends can't see. Or better yet, teach your son some manners. Or better yet, you and your family visit a naturist resort and learn how wonderful naturism is and to respect others.
Antoinette Datoc
7:42 am on Tuesday, November 1, 2011
Righteous2Bare:
Point well taken, in fact my first live-and-let-live sort of impulse was to tell Next-Door-to-a-Nudist to shut her own blinds and teach her son it's not polite to stare (you'll notice I managed to get that in at the end of my answer. However, Next-Door-to-a-Nudist did not ask advice on how to avoid the temptation to peep at her naked neighbor. She was seeking advice on how to protect her neighbor from an embarrassing situation because she suspects the woman is unaware that her curtains are not providing her with adequate cover. Her question was, "How do I do it (tell her the neighbors can see her) without embarrassing her?" That is the question I answered. Regarding your comment "to respect others," there is nothing disrespectful about delicately making someone aware of what, for most of us, is an embarrassing situation. And for the record, I'm sure naturism is wonderful, but it's not for everyone. That is why there are nature resorts because, right or wrong, being naked is something most of us save for the shower or tub.
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Ron Mazzola
11:09 am on Thursday, November 3, 2011
Very nice answer, Ant.